Be Happy Without Being Perfect: How to Break Free from the Perfection Deception by Alice Domar, Alice Lesch Kelly Summary and Reviews
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Book Reviews of Be Happy Without Being Perfect: How to Break Free from the Perfection Deception
Book Review: Great book, truly speaks to every woman
Summary: 5 Stars
'Be Happy Without Being Perfect' is truly a book that speaks to every woman. It deals with issues that all women face and gives helpful tips to overcome these issues. The book is easy to read; its fun, its informative and it really does teach you how to love yourself just the way you are. I would recommend this book to all women, and even men that want some insight into how women think about themselves.Book Review: A must-read for recovering perfectionists
Summary: 5 Stars
From the need to please everyone to the need to be right, this excellent guide will hit home with every woman who lets perfectionism cripple her life. (The book is written for women, but male perfectionists will find a lot here too.) Alice Domar writes with compassion, and while her professional credentials are outstanding and impressive, she writes as though she were talking to a friend. Her guide covers topics of key interest to perfectionists, including making peace with our "imperfect" bodies and personal appearance. She reminds us that nobody's home is ever as perfect as Martha Stewart's, and that our friends and family won't always live up to our expectations. Of particular interest to me were the opening chapters explaining how and why perfectionism is so pervasive among women today. Letting go of perfectionism is the path to inner peace -- and this helpful guide points the way. -- Cindy La Ferle Book Review: Freedom Happening!
Summary: 5 Stars
I have been a perfectionist or striving toward perfection ever since my pre-teen years. As an oldest (hero) of a family with an alcholic mother and an engineer/lawyer for a father, my perfectionism runs deep. For my grades, I got "why the B?" and for my adolescent weight gain, I was ridiculed by my family. But the criticism that my family innocently enough started, I "perfected". I became a master at self depreciation. In fact, telling myself that "I did a great job" is painful for me, even when obviously true.
However, after reading Dr. Domar's book, I believe that I can change my thinking and become a much happier person. In fact, I have started using the cognitive restructuring tools and wow, what a difference. Here is an example: my son's birthday was last week and instead of ripping myself for not wrapping his package (and placing it in a blanket), I said to myself, "he is 12, we are away from home, who cares if the package is wrapped?...he just wants the present". And guess what? I was much happier because I didn't lay into myself with criticsim for somehting that really didn't matter. And, I enjoyed a very unperfect party. Yahoo!
For all the women who either struggle with, are paralyzed by or even just flirt with perfectionism, I highly recommend that you read this brilliantly written book. For me, freedom from constant perfectionistic thinking is happening! Thank you Dr. Alice Domar and Alice Lesch Kelly!
Book Review: Must Read on Perfectionism!!
Summary: 5 Stars
I first came across Ali Domar's mind/body work through my struggle with infertility. Her book Healing Mind, Healthy Woman: Using the Mind-Body Connection to Manage Stress and Take Control of Your Life has had a huge impact on my life. It just so happens that I am also a perfectionist and find this book to be equally fantastic!
Who Should Read This Book
If you're a woman, this book is for you. More specifically, if you grew up in the wake of Martha Stewart, if you clean your house spotless before having guests over, if you look in the mirror and see every flaw... this book is for you.
What You Will Learn
Ali begins with a quiz to assess how perfectionism is affecting key areas of your life: body image, home, job, relationships, children, and decision making. The remainder of the book presents tools, techniques, and anecdotes to help free you from the grip of perfectionism. The tools and techniques are approachable and don't require anything more than pen and paper. Like any self-help book, reading is only half the battle. To really benefit, you'll have to roll up your sleeves and get to work. Fortunately, with a good variety of easy to implement techniques, you're bound to find something that works well for you.
I will also add that there's a chapter early in the book that explores the roots of the perfectionism in our society, dating back to the early 1800's. Learning the history of these undertones was fascinating and provided a great perspective.
Take-Away
Perfectionists aren't doomed! Our parents may have unintentionally cultivated our perfectionist ways, but it's possible to change. I've read a lot of books on perfectionism, but have never felt this empowered to make real changes in my life.
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