Be Honest--You're Not That Into Him Either: Raise Your Standards and Reach for the Love You Deserve by Ian Kerner Summary and Reviews
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Book Reviews of Be Honest--You're Not That Into Him Either: Raise Your Standards and Reach for the Love You Deserve
Book Review: EYES WIDE OPEN!
Summary: 5 Stars
Thank You Ian Kerner for writing this book! This is definitely a favorite of mine, I have already loaned it to 4 of my friends! Any single woman who is out in the dating world should read this book. (The book "He's Just Not That Into You" was too harsh for my liking. When reading it, I felt even though it was full of little signs & signals to watch for in relationship; the way the book was written made the average woman feel ignorant for not seeing these things on her own.) In "YOU'RE NOT THAT INTO HIM EITHER", the author takes many different approaches to identify what kind of man you are actually dating, describes dating fatigue, looks at the definition of booty call, friends with benefits, hookup, No strings attached, etc. This book uses a "self-help" approach, instead of making the reader feel ignorant for not seeing these facts without reading a book about them. One of the interesting chapters in the book was identifying the type of girl you are, and what you are really looking for. In one of the areas of the book, he lays out suggestions of compromise vs. lowering your standards. The final chapter is written by Ian's wife, Lisa; giving the book a cute conclusion to this book on relationships.
Being the first four chapters are about sex, complete with all the definitions...slang and otherwise; if you are on the conservative side, this book is not for you.
Book Review: This book will inspire you NOT to settle
Summary: 5 Stars
This was one of the best books on the topic I've ever read. It was a lot more than just an advice book on love--I was empowered that I CAN find the love of my life if I stopped settling and going out with men that I don't really care about.
Book Review: A good supplement to other books
Summary: 4 Stars
I think the author did a good job of explaining why there doesn't seem to be too many good men out there. It's basically because women lowered the bar by having casual sex and not imposing new standards and new boundaries to accompany this "new behavior." If you are going to throw out the old rules, you need to come up with new ones. Otherwise it's anarchy, ladies. And I think we are all seeing that.
I can't and won't engage in casual sex--but nevertheless I think I (and all women) have to deal with the baggage that a sexually casual society brings.
I really related to his insight about how women's ego (or perhaps emotional makeup) makes us sometimes get fixated on the wrong guy just so that we are at least getting a little something--while knowing intellectually that he is so very wrong for us.
One area where I strongly disagreed with him was his glib view that single motherhood would happily put an end to the ticking biological clock syndrome. For Pete's sake, it takes a hell of a lot more than money and maternal love to raise a child. Children without fathers are at a disadvantage--whether they are financially secure or not. Children need male role models in their lives and it's up to women to choose a good role model. One who is there as a constant. Furthermore, women fare much better as mothers when they have the emotional support of a partner to raise the child. Thus, I thought his statement was irresponsible and somewhat blind--given all his empathy for women's needs.
But overall, a very good read. I loved his wife's story at the end. I was touched by the story of their courtship.
Book Review: A must have
Summary: 5 Stars
Great book....any lady out there that has ever settled for Mr. "Right now", spent time contemplating why he's "Just not into you", must read this book...Its just the other side of the coin..."He's just not that into you" is a must read as well...read them back to back..and i guarantee that the next time you start or attempt to start a relationship, your eyes will be wide open..Good Luck!Book Review: And if all else fails have a fridge full of your favorite ice cream to EAT
Summary: 1 Stars
Generally women need (and secretly like) being treated poorly - so long as her man "comes around" and acts nicey-nice; you know, buys her a small, yet meaningful gift. Gives her a genuine-sounding compliment to boost her ego. Then he is required to go back to acting like a cretin; it's a cycle you see - she needs him to be a jerk, so that when he does do something kind-hearted it really stands out. If he was sweet, nice, kind, gentle, thoughtful ALL THE TIME - that would get BORING, and she'd leave him for someone who could provide the needed drama that I described. So this book is total nonsense. To be used for those times when she's needing "empowerment" - and when the man has grown tired, and wise to the con of her need for drama.