For Women Only: What You Need to Know about the Inner Lives of Men by Shaunti Feldhahn Summary and Reviews
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Book Reviews of For Women Only: What You Need to Know about the Inner Lives of Men
Book Review: common knowledge
Summary: 2 Stars
This book was a waste of my money. The things in this book are common knowledge, I would hope. If you are absolutely clueless about men, then you might benefit from it. Book Review: A good basis for a fun discussion
Summary: 3 Stars
"For Women Only" is intended for (Christian) women who are interested in gaining a better understanding of men so that they can better appreciate and support their husband in the way that he needs. Feldhahn offers seven "revelations": things men wish women knew but don't know how to explain. She came upon these revelations through surveying hundreds of men from many walks of life.
The first chapter lists six ground rules for reading the book: it contains no male bashing, it deals only with how women relate to men ("For Men Only" deals with how men relate to women), there are exceptions to every rule and no man is expected to fit perfectly into any category, the book addresses what a normal man is--not what he "should" be, some of the information in the book might be distressing to your current views of how men think, and this book is supposed to change and improve women--not men. Judging from many of the negative reviews on this site, many people seem to skim over or forget these rules.
Feldhahn's seven revelations are: men crave respect and love, men are in constant competition with themselves and the world and are often worried they don't measure up, men are burdened by their need to provide but also like to be depended upon because providing is a way to show love, sex fulfills an emotional need for men, men notice beautiful women, men want romance but they define it differently than women, and men want their wives to care about their appearance.
The book is a very easy and quick read, but it is repetitive and slim. It contains a few too many Christian references for my taste. There is a discussion guide available for purchase, and a website for further information (I haven't looked at either). The practical advice is weak, but that's ok because the revelations inspired me to create my own solutions.
I read "For Women Only" in an evening and then had about an hours' discussion with my husband. It was enlightening and enjoyable for us both, but it is not something that I would take too seriously and not something I would give as a gift.
Book Review: THE BEST!! My relationship bible!!
Summary: 5 Stars
I read this book in one day. It opened my eyes to all the things I did wrong in my first two marriages. After reading "For Women Only", I GOT IT!! I really GOT IT!! Every woman should read this book!
No book has ever made such an impact on me and my attitude towards men. It also made me painfully aware of how much power women wield to build or destroy their husband. THIS IS, BY FAR, THE BEST RELATIONSHIP BOOK I HAVE EVER READ! And I will read it over and over again until it is inscribed in my brain. This has become my favorite bridal shower gift! THANK YOU SHAUNTI!!!
Book Review: Awesome book
Summary: 5 Stars
I borrowed this book from a friend and liked it so much I bought one for myself and also the one "For Men Only" for my husband. We have a awesome marriage, but after reading these books, they really helped us see from the others way of thinking in a way we hadn't known how to tell each other before. I think all Young marriaged couples should read these books!Book Review: Times change but genders don't ! This is a good book!
Summary: 4 Stars
I liked this book! Basically, it's a reminder of common sense relationship builders about how men are different than women (guys and gals are different? No! Really?). When I was a new bride my mom gave me some advice, some of it funny, about being a wife. At the time I thought oh that's all well and good, but mom was married in 1950 and I'm getting married in the '80's and men are SO different now. Well guess what? 20+ years later into my marriage and mom was right. Men and women are wired differently; this book reminds women of that.
For some reason the difference in genders has become forgotten in our society, and I think a lot of relationship issues are the result. Men are men, no matter what generation this is. They want respect. Teasing and joking at their expense is deeply hurtful. The "Sorry honey, I have a headache" routine isn't just annoying to them, it hurts them emtotionally. In that respect the book is fairly basic, but I think this information - as basic as it is - is important information for women today. That said, the book does put quite a bit of responsibility on the wife. I think many wives will read this book and say "But I tried all that!" and feel like any failures in their marriage are their fault. Relationships are complex; this book is a start but doesn't answer every marriage issue, and I don't think that is the book's intent. It's a starting point.
The funny thing is, the average girl in Jr. High can accurately describe what boys are like but somewhere along the line women seem to forget all that and honestly, grown men and Jr. High boys still have a lot in common. (Ha Ha). When my daughters are older I'll definitely give them a copy of this book, and of course maybe have them chat with my mom, too.