Getting to 'I Do' by Pat Allen, Sandra Harmon Summary and Reviews
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Book Reviews of Getting to 'I Do'
Book Review: At last! A helpful book that tells it like it really is!
Summary: 5 Stars
Out of the many relationship books I have read, this is the one that actually proved valuable in the most tangible of ways. If the truth scares you, then stay away. But if you're willing to sacrifice and discipline in order to have a happy, healthy relationship, then this book could help you get what you want. (It did for me, and for the friends who recommended it to me.) Bottom line: the principles in this book really work. Key word: results!Book Review: Changed my life!
Summary: 5 Stars
I was given this book as a present after a break up along with several other self help relationship books. They all said the same stuff. However, this one was different. VERY DIFFERENT. It actually infuriated me. I felt it was backwards, silly, and frustrating to the point that I shared my feelings with my therapist. Her reaction was if it got me going, I probably needed to read it again because it had struck a chord. I did, and it did. I googled Pat Allen and went to see her speak. I was amazed. She is brilliant, get's it, and can make us laugh at the things that seem like common sense when it's happening to other people. I'm so thankful for this gift, her gifts, and the lightbulb moment this book gave me!Book Review: Choose only one - being respected or cherished
Summary: 1 Stars
Judging High School science fairs and watching "Teen Jeopardy" takes me back to the time when my friends and I were full of energy and curiosity. Well, Pat Allen has a disheartening message for such women: unless you hide your smarts, expect to be respected but not cherished in romantic relationships. According to Allen, a relationship requires that one partner be the consistently receptive (read passive) "female" energy who vetoes what the active partner ("male energy") initiates. This goes from picking which movie to watch to figuring out major life plans.
What hope of being cherished is there for the bright, energetic females I see all around me? Well, you may be a company VP, Neurosurgeon or Police Detective. But prepare to act the '50's housewife in your relationship, so that hubby/bf doesn't view you as an honorary man and becomes confused as to how to treat you except - you guessed it - as a Man! Maybe some women have the energy to maintain a Jekyll and Hyde persona 24/7/365. Consider the logistical pretzel twisting required to maintain your feminine energy, which I'd love to see Dr. Allen address. Let me come up with a real-life scenario to illustrate my point : is a "feminine energy" CEO expected to structure her life so that her husband never hears her end of the conversation when she call a coworker from home, 'cause you don't want him to guess how competent, smart and decisive you really are? How delusional do you really expect a man to be about his girlfriend or wife's decision-making capabilities once he's remotely aware of her high responsibility profession? If you are one of those chameleons, go ahead and read this book if you want your man to cherish you. Otherwise, don't bother.
Book Review: Every Woman Should Read This
Summary: 5 Stars
Wow, what a great book. Every woman should read it. If you keep falling for the wrong guy and having sex way too soon, then getting dumped, you need to read this. Women have to avoid sex with a man they meet until they find out his TRUE INTENTIONS. If you want a long term relationship leading to committment and marriage, then you HAVE to read this book because if that is not what HE wants, then you waste yourself and your precious body on a dead-end relationship. The book tells you what to do and what NOT to do. Read it, and change your life for the better.Book Review: Excellent Advice
Summary: 5 Stars
Short of going out and flirting to find the man for you; Pat Allen gives us all the info we need. Here's what I surmised from the book.
1) Always look your best. Whatever that best is for you. Many different men are attracted to different types of women. However they are visual creatures. They tend to fall in love with their eyes first.
2)Flirt, flirt, flirt! Men like it. It takes a lot of the guess work out of it for them. If they are interested, they will come and talk to you first. Let them approach you. Let them be the man!
3) No sex without commitment. Men do not generally marry women they have sex with right away. They will see you as Ms. Right Now, not Ms. Right.
4) This is really not emphasized a lot in the book, but she touches upon it briefly; Fall in love with yourself first! (I personally think this is key.) A man falls in love with a woman who first loves herself. They can't handle being responsible for your happiness all the time! First, we need to be happy with ourselves and our lives first. Then the right man is just the "icing on the cake" so to speak.