Getting to 'I Do' by Pat Allen, Sandra Harmon Summary and Reviews
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Book Reviews of Getting to 'I Do'
Book Review: Excellent advice on relating to men.
Summary: 5 Stars
I honestly believe that between this book & "The Rules" book, which seem to stem from the same ideas, (1 difference I noticed is that 1 says to wait a while to have sex & this book seems to believe it is in a womans best interest to wait until she gets a commitment -) that I have an advantage in having a good romantic relationship that I did not have before. The concepts may not flow with a lot of feminism ideas or "we've come a long way baby" style of thinking - HOWEVER - how many men do you hear say "OOH look at that woman - I want her because she's so succesful - & way more assertive than me - now I have someone to tell me what to do" The book explains why it is more sexually attractive to a man for a woman to be more on the passive receiving side than the aggressive side. If we REALLY take the book's advise & just listen to our feelings & stop behaving like a man - like we might need to do in the work place (use our male energy), it actually makes life better (for myself anyway). It's nice to feel that it's ok to stay home with our children & depend on a man (if we can afford it)- an idea that modern thinking is wiping out - even scoffing at. I'm coming from an environment where most of my friends have masters degrees or at least bachelors degrees & staying home just seems like an unspoken no-no - like you've waisted your college education & that you're just plain lazy if you don't "strive for the best" I needed this book. I like the concept of female & male energy - I've used the ideas on my boyfriend & I feel a natural good flow between us. Sex REALLY is better when your man initiates it. & when we do things HE initiates it feels like our connection is stronger in the romantic sense. I wish I could go around telling all of the women in my life about the book & the concept of female passiveness/receptivity - but it's hard to preach to someone when you think they won't understand or believe it. I highly recommend this book to all women - who are frustrated with their relationships with men or just want a really honest viewpoint on how romance & relationships really work & why.Book Review: Five Stars for Pat Allen
Summary: 5 Stars
I know this book isn't for everyone. The information in it can ruffle more than feathers. Yet, in my experience of dating - and beyond - I find it to be true. Personally, when I follow Dr. Allen's tenents I get what I want in a relationship - and more! I find it true for myself that when I let a man cherish me, I feel respected. And when I respect my man, he feels cherished. Like skiing - at first it's a bit counter-intuitive. But when I put it into practice, I saw the benefits.
It was a true honor when Dr. Allen endorsed my book Never Trust A Man In Alligator Loafers. We're all learning, growing, and trying new things. I applaud any woman who commits to her own happiness - whatever that may be.
Book Review: Follow Your Feelings
Summary: 4 Stars
As hard some of the concepts are to swallow (some of it does seem very Ward & June Cleaver) I found the information reaffirming. In particular, making a practice of tuning into and expressing one's feelings, and staying true to them, i.e., not participating in things that go against one's feelings, is a good reminder. Dr. Allen emphasizes the right of the "feminine style" person has to their feelings, and the importance of honoring them. Who among us has not gone down the wrong road by blowing past our internal, "NO?"
I also liked how it underscored respect and giving a man space to figure things out. Especially for, "old school," men, I think this is useful.
The rest of it is what you already know but don't want to: if you are the "feminine style" type, keep yourself up, go out looking attractive, and don't put out until you have an agreement.
If you are old enough to have lived through, or been raised in, the 1970s, you may balk at this book, but why not try it out, anyway? The results will give you the answer.
Book Review: Forget the Rules - this is the one to read !
Summary: 5 Stars
This is the best book on the subject of dating and relating to men - I wish I had read it 10 years ago! It has changed my outlook and behavior and I highly recommend this to all women.Hats off to the authors!
Book Review: Getting To "I Do"
Summary: 5 Stars
This is one of the Most Valuable Books any Woman, who TRULY desires "Marriage" (& not just "shacking up" with a guy!), could ever have the opportunity to read!! A MUST for the Non-Feminist types who enjoy working from their "female energy", & embrace the idea of Men being the Leaders of a family/household.