Getting to 'I Do' by Pat Allen, Sandra Harmon Summary and Reviews
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Book Reviews of Getting to 'I Do'
Book Review: Got engaged 4 months after reading this book.
Summary: 5 Stars
I am a problem-solving, practical woman. I thought I could figure out my dating problems on my own...until I hit 33. I read a few excellent books, but this one was the best. It gave practical solutions in a clear, easy-to-understand fashion. It also described all the stupid stuff I had been doing. By implementing the author's suggestion, I was able to meet a qulality man and marry him after 1 year of dating. If you want a committed relationship, and are tired of feminist, man-hating bull....then this book is an excellent choice.Book Review: Great Book - Very Useful Information
Summary: 5 Stars
It's too bad the author of this book didn't come up with a better title. I almost didn't read the review simply because the title sounded so trite. This is the best book I've read on relationships and the differences between men and women. The advise is practical and easy to understand and use in everyday situations. I strongly recommend this book to anyone looking to improve their relationships with.
Book Review: Great advice for women to take care of selves
Summary: 5 Stars
I read this book over 10 years ago and now find myself coming back to it again and again. This books talks about how important it is for woman to take care of themselves in life. I have not found many authors willing to be "politically" incorrect" like Dr. Patricia Allen. She is looking out for what is best for women, which in turn is what is best for men and then also for kids and the planet.
Her work upsets people people because it is based on being accountable and responisble for ones own happiness. It also flied in the face of equality, which has its place but not in relationships. Complimentary and long lasting is more important than equality. I think her work is terrific and I have taken many workshops with her, Aliison Armstrong and Katherine Woodward Thomas. I have read almost every book out there on relationships and hers has the most sane step by step understanding of how to walk throught dating and relationships being authentic and feeling good.
Book Review: Has has good points but...
Summary: 2 Stars
I recommend reading Why Men Marry Bitches instead of this book. I at first was a big believer in this book but then I started questioning it and realized that it is messed up. That's why I recommend why men marry bitches. The only good point in this book was how she says men can take up to 8 weeks to process something emotional and to give them the space.
The reality is we single women need to not make marriage our priority, but rather finding a good man. If we get too caught up in getting married, we won't be screening our dates, looking for the right man. We may settle out of desperation.
This book recommends multiple dating, which I agree with. However, when the man asks for sex, this is when you bring up the topic of marriage. The reality is, men will say anything to get into your pants so giving this talk on exclusivity is nonsense. In WMMB, it talks about how you can have a man be the one to bring up exclusivity. That book is way more practical.
GTID seems to be a book for women, to delude them into thinking how they can get a man. At least in WMMB, it talks about how men are and how their minds operate.
Remember ladies, imagine if the way you wanted marriage was the way a man acted towards you. You'd bolt, so start giving men the space they need and have a life of your own. And yes actually have a career and hobbies that you are passionate about. A man is nice to have, but having one shouldn't be something that you are fixated on.
Book Review: Her theory is too general to apply to everyone
Summary: 3 Stars
I can't believe this woman needed a PhD to learn men should be masculine and women should be feminine in relationships. The basics of this book is men should play the masculine role and women should be feminine or if you are opposite you have to find the opposite in a partner.
She includes tests to see which traits you have. I had mostly feminine but some masculine. She goes on the say I need to "fix" the masculine traits. I'm sorry, we do not need to change ourselves to find the right partner unless we have a problem.
I do recommend the book for successful women who have been unsuccessful in relationships because they are acting too masculine (paying for dates, buying him gifts, etc).
I do not agree that men are turned off by women who initiate sex!!!