Getting to 'I Do' by Pat Allen, Sandra Harmon Summary and Reviews
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Book Reviews of Getting to 'I Do'
Book Review: Highly Recommended To All Women
Summary: 5 Stars
Yes! I love this book! Dr. Allen gets it right with her advice to women. The core of her book teaches women to be feminine, not masculine. And to have the self respect needed to require commitment from a man before sex. She makes no apologies about recognizing the fact that as long as a man can get sex with minimal cost (financially and emotionally), he will do so.
The book warns women that men will not respect her if she gives herself sexually to him too easily. He will feel guilt and disgust. Or he may feel manipulated. Either way, she loses.
Filled with plenty of "how-to's" and practical suggestions, this book will give concrete answers to questions like, "what if he gives you his phone number" and "how do you require a commitment and not demand one".
While Dr. Allen does not completely forbid premarital sex, her strong, 'no sex without commitment' message combined with very useful and effective advice makes this book a must-read for all single women who ever hope to be married!
Book Review: Highly recommend to all single women who want to mate
Summary: 5 Stars
I have read this book four times, and yes I did receive four marriage proposals. Dr. Pat Allen's book and her formulas do work. I often buy the book as a gift for my single girlfriends and have been known as
as a "Dr. Pat Allen" girl. Those who fall into that category know exactly what I mean as well as the best-selling author of Getting to "I Do" herself who is a family and relationship therapist.
For over fifteen years, Dr. Pat Allen has been leading a Monday evening group in Los Angeles and now also has a weekly Wednesday evening group in Newport Beach, CA. I have attended these sessions and brought my girlfriends when they were in a relationship crisis, so they could go on stage and have a quick dose of the famed Dr. Pat Allen.
Does her theory on relationships work? You bet. I have a close girlfriend who has been happily married for fifteen years and still credits her success to reading Dr. Pat Allen's book. Another friend who was involved with a married man, who kept hoping he would become available, went on stage at a Dr. Pat Allen lecture, and shortly there after was able to dump the unavailable man. She recently celebrated her ten year wedding anniversary and now has two beautiful children, and considers Getting to "I Do" her bible.
Julie Spira, author of The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online
Book Review: How To GET Married AND Sustain Romance and Chemistry? Dr. Allen Delivers!
Summary: 5 Stars
Dr. Pat Allen provides specific practical advise and steps for men and women to successfully navigate the 4 Phases of Dating Relationship and Getting to I Do in just about 12 months.
Many modern men and women just sort of stumble into romantic sex relationships without actually surfacing, communicating and negotiating for what we want. Dr. Allen recommends and provides specific topics every couple needs to address, surface and negotiate for relationships and as you approach the altar. Women and men who read and implement her wise dating and relationship advise will both avoid much heartache AND increase their likelihood to marry.
And stay married.
Part of what is so brilliant, stimulating, and unique about Dr. Allen's approach is she brings in scientific research about the female brain and the male brain and how, indeed, we think and process communication differently. Her work speaks to our intellect as well as our emotional side.
Dr. Allen has been leading dating seminars in LA and the OC for years, resulting in thousands of marriages.
Indeed, her work aligns well with Dr. Gray's Mars and Venus books about how men and women think, date, and relate differently. Their work is not identical. They overlap a bit and compliment each other well.
As a Dating Expert and Online Dating Coach, this is on my recommended reading list to all my clients.
Book Review: I cannot believe the power of this book!
Summary: 5 Stars
Like other reviewers, I did not agree with everything in this book. To be honest, I did not even finish reading it. I didn't need to. (Though I should go back and do so at some point.) My roommate purchased this book--she and I were in the same boat: mid 30s, a few great past relationships a few bad ones, no prospects for the long-term. I laughed when I saw the title but, of course, curiosity got the best of me. I read the first 50 or so pages in one night and had a COMPLETELY new perspective. Some things were hard to swallow but I was willing to be open minded. The next day I told the loser I was dating to get lost and started on a new quest. Very shortly thereafter I met my soulmate (in Feb.)!!! We got engaged in July! Here's the kicker. My roommate started seeing someone a few months after I did (she had read the book too) and she just emailed me with her engagement news. We are both in an entirely different place than we were a year ago before we ever picked up this book. I am still astonished myself to be honest. But the info here is invaluable. Even if you don't agree with every sentiment on every page, there is something between these pages for you.Book Review: I didn't "get" this at first...
Summary: 5 Stars
but once I learned enough about myself, it made sense.
Its not an easy change to make, and its certainly not popular! But IT WORKS!! Has helped to make me a better person and MUCH MORE successful in my interpersonal relationships with both sexes!! Dr. Pat Allen is the Bomb!