Loving Your Child Is Not Enough: Positive Discipline That Works by Nancy Samalin, Martha Moraghan Jablow Summary and Reviews
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Book Reviews of Loving Your Child Is Not Enough: Positive Discipline That Works
Book Review: Helpful without making one feel like a bad parent
Summary: 5 Stars
I highly recommend this book. This is the first book that did not make me feel like a bad parent, that gave actual responses that were helpful to my highly intelligent, sensitive and strong willed child. Book Review: Invaluable Parental Guidance
Summary: 5 Stars
This book was instrumental in making me a better and more confident parent. The guidance is practical, clear and sensible. Much of the guidance in this book is useful over many years of a child's life, just applied a bit differently. I still use tips from this book with my college-age son! The specific advice on disciplining a child without harming the child's self-esteem or harming the parent/child relationship was very useful to my husband and myself. This is the most worthwhile guidance we found anywhere on the subject of child rearing.Book Review: Very Helpful for Teachers of all grade levels
Summary: 5 Stars
As a 25 year teacher who leads seminars in classroom management and community, this is the most helpful book I have ever read. It gives practical examples of how to use language to focus on results and outcomes. Students respond because they are not attacked and the teacher is not drawn into the constant little battles that bog the day down. I reread this book every two to three years to brush up and refine my skills. Book Review: A very passive approach...
Summary: 2 Stars
I was looking for a book about discipline that helps increase self-confidence rather than undermine it. I picked up this book, which turned out to be not at all practical for parenting my high-spirited and generally well-behaved daughter. The suggested responses to situations are very passive and assume the child gives up very easily. Samalin suggests replacing obviously abusive language ("Pick up that coat this minute! Why are you so sloppy? Didn't you ever hear of a coat hanger?") with oddly passive-aggressive language ("Coats belong in the closet, not on the floor.") (p. 16). Other conversatons in the book presume that as soon as a child's feelings are acknowledged, all battles will be over. But in my experience, pretending behavior problems don't exist doesn't make them go away, so I found this book to be impractical. If you want to take a direct rather than passive approach to parenting your kids, this is not the book for you.Book Review: Great! Readable, practical, helpful.
Summary: 5 Stars
I highly recommend this book. The title may be a bit deceptive, since it's really about avoiding punishment and letting normal consequences and kids' own consciences steer them the right way. Many practical examples are given, that translate easily into daily use. Very readable, it helps both parents who have trouble setting limits, and also in a very sensitive and palatable way helps those who have fallen into an punitive and harsh pattern with their kids. Very helpful.