The Blessing of a Skinned Knee: Using Jewish Teachings to Raise Self-Reliant Children by Wendy Mogel Summary and Reviews
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Book Reviews of The Blessing of a Skinned Knee: Using Jewish Teachings to Raise Self-Reliant Children
Book Review: This Book Speaks to Everyone
Summary: 5 Stars
The Blessings of a Skinned Knee: Using Jewish Teachings to Raise Self-Reliant Children is a true gift to anyone who is raising a child in this hectic, modern world. Written by nationally-known clinical psychologist, educator, and workshop leader Wendy Mogel, the reader is given a glimpse of parenting without the conspicuous consumption practices so prevalent in this era.
Although this book uses Jewish teachings to substantiate the approach to childrearing in the new milleneum, it speaks to everyone--no matter what their chosen faith. Because I am not Jewish, I found some of the words and concepts a bit foreign, but the author is quite adept at explaining for those who are not followers of the Jewish faith.
Even twenty years ago, as I was raising my three daughters, I found myself wondering what had happened to the basic principles that had been so accepted when I was being raised. Mogel has brought them to the forefront in this most enlightening and affirming book. As I read the book, I felt I was having a conversation with a like-minded friend. I found myself nodding in agreement, smiling with fond remembrances of similar situations handled in similar ways, and wishing that every parent would take the time to read and implement some, if not all, of Mogel's practices.
"This book is not a formula for foolproof parenting. It is a lens, a way to look at the world, your life, and your family. Judaism has given my family unexpected moments of closeness and harmony, clarity about daily ethical dilemmas, and a sense of the holy potential of everyday life. It has guided me as a parent more profoundly than any other way of thinking I've yet found, and I hope it will do the same for you," writes Mogel.
Mogel outlines nine "blessings" for parents:
1. The blessing of acceptance: discovering your unique and ordinary child
2. The blessing of having someone to look up to: honoring father and mother
3. The blessing of a skinned knee: why God doesn't want you to overprotect your child
4. The blessing of longing: teaching your child an attitude of gratitude
5. The blessing of work: finding the Holy sparks in ordinary chores
6. The blessing of food: bringing moderation, celebration, and sacrifice to your table
7. The blessing of self-control: channeling your child's Yetzer Hara
8. The blessing of time: teaching your child the value of the present moment
9. The blessings of faith and tradition: losing your fear of the G word and introducing your child to spirituality
One of my favorite chapters/ blessings was that of time. In this chapter, Mogel validates some of my own thoughts on the scheduled lives we create for ourselves and our children. In a day and age where there are three activities for each day of the week and not enough hours in the day to stop and enjoy one another, I found Mogel's input to be priceless. Her "time savers: everyday methods to guard time" are gems our parents and their parents before them seemed to know instinctively... gems we seem to have lost sight of in our busy world.
Find time to connect with your child, Mogel advises. Allowing children time to get bored provides them with an opportunity to find ways to amuse or entertain themselves--like daydreaming or playing for the sheer sake of play. "Let them dawdle," she says. The author points out that when we move faster, adhere to stricter schedules, and tend to look for immediacy in much of what we do, we sometimes fail to allow children to operate at their own pace. Allowing children to move at a child's speed lessens the pressure they feel to accomplish a given task.
Today, I am a grandmother raising her young grandson. This book found me just when I was questioning whether I was being fair to him as I imposed my values of respecting adults, using manners, sitting down for family mealtimes, and not having scheduled activities every moment of every day. It would appear that, at least in Mogel's eyes, the answer is an emphatic "Yes!"
by Lee Ambrose
for Story Circle Book Reviews
reviewing books by, for, and about women
Book Review: For Christians, too! This is an excellent book!
Summary: 5 Stars
I have really enjoyed reading this book. Not only does the author give us sound advice on our approach to parenting but she also explains the basis on which it is founded, the Jewish Faith. Christians can benefit greatly from this book. Jesus was a Jew and we should know more about the traditions that Jesus grew up with. If it were not for the Jews; we would not have Jesus. And, we serve the same God! I have really scooped in the wealth of information and wisdom the author has offered in this book. It is well worded and she has woven together, beautifully, the Jewish tradition, her experience as a psychologist and her advice on parenting. A very interesting read. I tend to skim through books, reading only here and there. This author has kept my attention. I'm not done reading it but it is so good I just had to write a review now.Book Review: Great Sound Childrearing Help
Summary: 5 Stars
I am not Jewish, but the principles discussed in this book are relevant for any family of Christian faith. This book is helping me in raising my strong willed, intelligent daughter, who, being an only child, grandaughter and neice on both sides, was becoming spoiled. She is only 5 and I knew I needed help before she got any older. The advice from this book makes sense and is easy to incorporate into family life. I have given it as gift to two of my friends, who also have enjoyed it.Book Review: Very helpful
Summary: 5 Stars
I am so glad I read this while my children were young. This book is very important and great advice.Book Review: The Blessing Of The Skinned Kness
Summary: 5 Stars
Simply the best parenting book I've ever read. Straightforward, simple and addresses every issue I've ever had with my kids. Intuitive and funny.