The Discipline Book: How to Have a Better-Behaved Child From Birth to Age Ten Summary and Reviews
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Book Reviews of The Discipline Book: How to Have a Better-Behaved Child From Birth to Age Ten
Book Review: Disappointed
Summary: 2 Stars
I'm a big fan of the baby book, and I have to say I was really disappointed when I read this one. It's like it's written for people who can't think for themselves. The advice and explanations given in this book were things I take for granted that all parents understand. Either that or I'm a perfect mother- (and I know I'm not.) Buy something else instead- unless you don't really have a clue.Book Review: It was somewhat useful, but not a cure-all.
Summary: 3 Stars
I found some of the suggestions useful. For example I was able to minimize getting into the yelling/spanking routine. Others (most) were idealstic and unrealistic. For example, for most situations the authors suggest talking calmly and gently to your child but I that is impossible when a toddler is screaming at the top of his lungs for 30 minutes and can't even hear anything being said! I found that some guidelines were too permissive for our family. I disagree with their advice to apologize to your children when you get angry-it makes parents look weak and out of control. I also think this book could leave some parents feeling inadequate because no parent is calm and rational 100% of the time.Book Review: An essential book in a detachment oriented culture.
Summary: 5 Stars
I wish all of Dr. Sears books would be prenatal prerequisites and parting gifts at the hospitals! There is scientific evidence,personal experience, and genuine caring. Indeed,in an ideal world we would all be parented this way- people would value people over things.We have attachment parented our daughter by responding to her cues from day one in terms of nursing,crying,sharing sleep,holding and simply doing what feels humane. Zoe is almost three and this approach has truly helped me to know my child and has served as the foundation for effective discipline which is simply guidance, whether firm or gentle,it is setting limits,and correctng and redirecting. When you have done this from the beginning, "discipline" isn't something that you do all of a sudden now that they are a toddler. Talking to her early on and explaining things and having age appropriate expectations builds trust- this makes for a more harmonious relationship overall and quite an asset for there are days and weeks that are just hard- there are certainly challenges to being an "at home" parent-even with a great natured toddler,I believe that all of the Sears' books have affirmed the value that I have on the attachment process in the first three years of life.Attachment parenting is an investment.Our society wants independence and quick fixes where children our concerned: let someone else parent them,leave them to cry,spank,scream,ignore.These methodst have grave long term consequences-a good reason to buy this book! Read this book.Book Review: Worth the money many times over
Summary: 5 Stars
There are many bits of advice in this book that can change your day from being one where you want to sit in a corner weeping to one where you think that bringing children up isn't really that hard. The advice includes making sure mealtimes are not a battle of wills, such as threatening that there will be no pudding unless your child eats its main course. Another good one is using an oven timer so that the children get to play for two minutes each with something they were fighting over. Well worth the eight pounds. One review of this book that said the advice in it seemed obvious. I think that is just because it is sensible. You may think of some of it yourself, but it is unlikely you will have thought of it all. We have three children under five, and this book has changed many aspects of our child-rearing and made our house quieter. We are less stressed. We have other books on the subject, but this is the best.
Book Review: Not bad.
Summary: 2 Stars
A lot of stuff in this book I liked. I do however think Sears is relatively mainstream, compared to the books I usually read. What struck me in a negative way is that he actually talks about spanking in the book. Of course not in a positive way, more like, if you feel you need to do it do it .... and I would have prefered a not at all approach to it.