The Five Love Languages of Children by Gary Chapman, Ross Campbell Summary and Reviews
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Book Reviews of The Five Love Languages of Children
Book Review: Unbearably banal
Summary: 1 Stars
I have difficulty imagining a parent reading this book and exclaiming, "Of course!" I'm going to do you an enormous favor and list the five 'Love Languages' discussed in this book.
1) Touch your child (hugs, etc...)
2) Talk to your child (words of encouragement)
3) Spend time with your child
4) Encourage giving
5) Encourage receiving
That's it! Somehow, the authors (amazingly, it took two) managed to fluff this into an entire book. As you'd expect, it is devoid of content - just inane observations any decent parent should understand instinctively. There is no hard research, no references to studies or books, well... except Bible quotations.
This is cheap, sickly-sweet, pseudo-therapy for empty minds. Skip the book and spend time with your kids.
Book Review: Helpful with examples
Summary: 4 Stars
Gary Chapman identifies 5 ways children experience love. He suggests that each child has one or two primary ways of feeling loved. The book can therefore help people maximize their emotional impact with children by employing those primary areas during interactions with the children in their lives. The redundant nature of the description of the 5 "languages" and excessive story telling force me to give this book 4 stars. Otherwise the information and examples are helpful to those willing to make the effort to improve their relationships with children.
Book Review: Is the Love You're Giving What Your Child Is Receiving?
Summary: 5 Stars
Chapman, with co-writer Ross Campbell, M.D., have written The Five Love Languages Of Children, which applies the love language theory to children. How can you tell your child's main love language? Chapman offers these suggestions:1. Observe how your child expresses love to you.
Chapman and Campbell: Watch your child; he may well be speaking his own language. This is particularly true of a young child, who is very likely to express love to you in the language he desires most to receive.
I've seen this with my own 4 1/2 year old. Noah will come up to me or my husband, and try to engage us in a wrestling match. Or he'll pat our arms, give us a hug, etc. He has shown us that his main love language is that of Physical Touch!
2. Observe how your child expresses love to others.
If you notice your child making crafts for relatives, or wanting to take presents to classmates or teacher, this may indicate that her primary love language is Gifts.
3. Listen to what your child requests most often.
If your child often asks you questions like "How do I look, Mommy?", "What do you think of my drawing?", or "Did you think I did well at practice today?", this pattern may indicate that his love language is Words of Affirmation.
4. Notice what your child most frequently complains about.
Frequent complaints such as "You never have time for me", "Why don't you play games with me?", or "We never do things together" would be indicative of the need for Quality Time.
5. Give your child a choice between two options.
Chapman and Campbell suggests to lead your child to make choices between two love language. For example, a Dad might say to his son, "I have some free time Saturday. Would you like me to fix your bike, or would you rather go to the park together and shoot some hoops?". The choice is between Acts of Service and Quality Time. A mother may say, "I have some time tonight. Would you like to go shopping, and I'll help you pick out a new outfit, or would you rather stay home and we'll do a puzzle together?" You've given her the choice between Gifts and Quality Time.
Chapman and Campbell explain: As you give options for several weeks, keep a record of your child's choices. If most of them tend to cluster around one of the five love languages, you have likely discovered which one makes your child feel most loved. At times, your child will not want either option, and will suggest something else. You should keep a record of those requests also, since they may give you clues.
Of course, the choices you offer your child will depend on age and interest.
I highly recommend this book for understanding your child's own unique love languages, and how you can better fill his or her "love tank"!
Book Review: an anti authoritarian child
Summary: 2 Stars
An anti authoritarian child is in our opinion, a smart child! However the writers, and advocates of the bible who wrote this book, consider anti authoritarianism to be a negative manifestation in children. Although our egos, as parents may not be happy to hear the word "No" from a child. We believe the reply one should give to most authorities on this planet is "NO" !!!!!
If you can name the five love languages, or find an alternative soucre to get this info, then you don't need to read this book...
Book Review: WoW...Our family has changed!!!
Summary: 5 Stars
I can't speak of the emotion that fills my heart when thinking of this book. It is saving my family! My husband and I now know how to satisfy our children in the most basic of ways...Love!! And I will tell you a secret: They do their chores now with no complaints!! Their "love tanks" are full, and they are happier than I have ever seen them! I think it should be handed out to every parent at the arrival of their new baby.I also have "The Five Love Languages" and it is just as worthy! This book should be a MUST for every married/dating couple in the world! Actually, I think maybe it should be handed out at birth! LOL It saved my marriage! I kid you not! Our whole family has been reborn because of these books.
I have shared the "love language" books with many people, married, dating, and parents alike, and hope that you choose it too! Your life will be changed for the better. Guaranteed!!