Why Men Love Bitches: From Doormat to Dreamgirl-A Woman's Guide to Holding Her Own in a Relationship by Sherry Argov Summary and Reviews
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Book Reviews of Why Men Love Bitches: From Doormat to Dreamgirl-A Woman's Guide to Holding Her Own in a Relationship
Book Review: As A Man I Agree, And I Highly Recommend for Women
Summary: 5 Stars
I started by reading the amazon reviews and it seems as if all the men agree. The last female reviewer didn't agree--she really just doesn't get it. The author really nailed it. Every man knows that the biggest power women have over men is sex and appealing to a man's ego is the way to get him to do anything you want. I thought the author's sexual advice was DEAD ON. I found myself, as a man, wondering how this author found out so many secrets about men.
It has nothing to do with a game. For men, it's about how to keep him curious. We're bored when a woman puts all the cards on the table.
I found the book to be honest, it's different from other books that sound like some kind of fairy tale. This book is for any woman who wants to deal with men in the real world--not men in their "wishful thinking world."
Book Review: Bluff your way to independence
Summary: 2 Stars
First of all, the book is, as all previous reviewers remarked, written with great wit and a sense of humor which is as charming as the author's pose in her photo on the back cover. The book is full of perceptive remarks which will ring true and valid for many a woman...BUT...the author seems to try to create a coctail between two things that don't mix, a message like that of "The Rules" along with some "woman's lib" consciousness of "dancing to your very own tune". As a result, the book is loaded with outrageous contradictions: The first two chapters are uplifting and "empowering" telling women why they should play by their own rules...but then, by Chapters 3 and 4, the message deteriorates; in chapter 3, Argov talks about what she defines as "women's sexual powers" with words like " the candy store", and women "exercising that power" by giving "one jujube at a time" and following some "jujube installment plan"...(?!) Women are not seen as creatures with their very own desires, but just as "owners of that which men want" with the whole point being in instructing them in how to "trade it" better...how could that possibly be called "empowering"?..Isn't that the oldest trick in the book?
Then, in chapter 4, there is a further deterioration, where the "empowered woman" of the first two chapters, proud owner of THE candy store in the third, is asked to act like a "dumb fox", and the entire chapter is about how she must PRETEND to be something she is not, and to play a DIFFERENT set of tricks in order to caress man's "poor fragile ego" and make him feel on top, while she tries to get her way with sneaky tactics.....that stuff "empowering"?!.....
Then, the book moves on to the upbeat "dance to your tune" and "be your own woman" bit again...
Then, throughout the book, men are constantly portrayed in an unflattering light that you can't help but wonder "why the trouble?" The unmistakable impression is either of jerks who think they are smart and whom Argov is teaching us how to "dupe"...alternately that of "wolves in disguise" and this is some "101 de-wolfing course" for the little red riding hoods of the world... and, while "instructing" women how-to tricks for the "taming" of men, repeating that the taming process does not stop, there seems to be no belief whatsoever in any inherent goodness that could possibly exist in men, but that such goodness could only come as a result of women's skill at "moulding" them, with a bit of manipulation here, calculation there, sneaky games here, sexual blackmail there...etc..etc..
And while women are told to calculate and manipulate, they are simultaneously told to "define themselves from within" , and to "follow their inner calling" while at the self same time "making the right impression"..That is where the book falters...the two just don't go together, at least not in any sane, balanced individual, and any attempts to convince otherwise is a bluff! Maybe a witty and funny bluff like this book, but a BLUFF nontheless!
For women who need a recipee to ensnare a man at all costs, as long as these women feel "cool" with a relationship founded on never-ending manipulation, as long as these women have no problem pretending to be one person then a complete other at different stages of "the game", as long as they don't mind putting their wits and energy into such a feat on a ongoing basis, and living from the outside in, constantly looking at themselves, checking and calculating that they are making the right impression....if these women don't mind all that, well, this book may well be their manifesto.
Book Review: All Women should read this!
Summary: 5 Stars
I wish this book had been written while I was in High School; it would have saved me a lot of wasted years. I had just started a new relationship, and discoverd that I was making the same mistakes once again. Thanks to Sherry, I got on the right track, and things couldn't be better.Book Review: A "Must Read" for anyone seeking an equitable relationship.
Summary: 5 Stars
Read this book for "self help" advice, read this book for a truly unique insight on dating, read it for fun, just read this book. I guarantee you won't be able to put it down.Book Review: Be Feisty
Summary: 5 Stars
Wow! If this author had more copies in the Barnes and Noble, she could have sold many copies, because when I asked for a copy of this book, from the front counter - my request started a ripple of dialogue, excitement, and desire to buy this book.Both men and women were intrigued.
And while this book title is meant as a tongue-in-cheek message, the real message is in these 9 suggestions for how to stay an adult human being, while interacting with men:
1. Give it back to him
2. Stay fully in this moment
3. Put him in his place
4. Show him that you won't put up with his childish ways
5. Show him that your confidence means you know something
that if he also knew what you know, his life would be better
6. Being spicy is sexy
7. Congruently show him what you will and will not tolerate
8. Your temper, that is, your strong conviction, shows him how
to connect with you - be consistent
9. Being feisty means you are sexually stimulating
Use these rules, not only in relationships, but also when confronting men, to communicate that you matter.